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Good evening, gents!

This past weekend, I attended a men’s conference for the first time in a while.

It was put on by Jon Tyson, a pastor in New York City with a specific call and heart for men, and Jefferson Bethke who leads men and fathers through the online ministry Family Teams.

It encouraged me to hang with other like-minded men and fathers all rallying around this notion that becoming a man doesn't happen by accident. Men are formed.

One of my biggest takeaways: Just like a great coach would do, it is our mandate as men, husbands, and fathers to

• focus on destiny, legacy, and the future

• deeply care about multiplication

• spend a significant amount of time training and developing, and

• have very specific visions for their team.

With that, I hope you all enjoy the rest of your week!

-C

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“People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.”
F.M. Alexander

Alexander nails it with this one.

Our future isn’t a single big decision, but the sum of the small, daily choices we make.

It's those little habits—whether it's showing up emotionally & spiritually for our kids, being present at the dinner table, or getting that early workout in—that shape where we end up.

Want a better future?

Start with better habits today.

_WISDOM
Culture eats strategy for breakfast.

This past weekend, I attended a men's conference called Forming Men, and one of the main themes was how crucial it is for us, as men, to set and develop the culture of our homes and relationships.

Here, I was introduced to the famous Peter Drucker quote “culture eats strategy for breakfast.”

You can have the best plans, routines, and goals laid out for your family, but if the underlying culture isn’t solid, those strategies will crumble every time.

But what is culture?

A great yet simple definition that was presented this weekend was: culture is what your family, home, workplace, or team ‘feels like.’

It’s the daily atmosphere we create, the way we interact with our spouse and kids, and the values we live out that shape the home far more than any game plan ever could.

_ACTION
Be a thermostat, not a thermometer.

One of the most important things we can do as parents is respond, not react.

Here is one hack from @coachingwithwill to master your emotions and teach your kids to do the same.

Thermostats SET the temperature.

Thermometers TAKE it.

Focus on SETTING your emotions to 72 degrees and sunny.

Remind yourself each day, “I’m a thermostat. I set my emotions instead of taking them.”

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