☠️ One of the scariest things men face

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Good evening lads.

In elementary school, my gym teacher always said, “if you had fun, you won!”

Nah, bump that.

If you won THEN you had fun. Don’t @ me.

-Collier

_QUOTE
“Be authentic with everyone but transparent with a few.”
Various Sources

This is something that I think, as men, we have a hard time doing.

Being fully known by someone is scary - plain and simple.

On the other hand, someone knowing the depths of our lives and still accepting us can be one of the most liberating feelings one can have.

As men, we face serious opposition to expressing emotions, insecurities and failures.

Somewhere along the line, we have believed that to be a strong man, husband and father means having it all figured out.

But if we can grab hold of the fact that many men feel similar, we can harness that truth into finding those “few” to share the depths with.

Spend some time this week thinking about who those “few” in your lives might be.

If you don’t have those men yet, start brainstorming who might fit that bill.

There is power in transparency. Embrace it.

_WISDOM
You are only as healthy as your inner circle. 

(From the All Pro Dad blog post, “4 Reasons Why Men Fail Repeatedly.”)

It’s one thing for a man to have a team (team = accountability), but he’s playing Russian Roulette with his life if he doesn’t have a “closer” group of men in his huddle, who he can trust.

A huddle is an inner circle group of a few men who will love you the most when you deserve it the least.

These are close, intimate friends with whom you can share your most shameful secrets, painful struggles, and deepest scars, and they won’t ever judge, reject, or abandon you.

They say a man is only as sick as his secrets. But to me, a man is only as healthy as his huddle.

A man with no huddle is prone to being consumed by shame, guilt, and anger, unless he has an inner circle of men who he can trust with those emotions. No huddle = no honesty.

_ACTION
Stop looking for more information and act on the information you already have.

(Source: LinkedIn post from Sahil Bloom)

Harsh Truth: There’s someone less qualified than you living the life you want simply because they took action and you didn’t.

Your entire life will change the moment you stop looking for more information and start acting on the information you already have.

I’m speaking from experience here:

I spent years gathering information and avoiding action.

In hindsight, I can admit I was using the information gathering to hide from my fear of action.

Dopamine from information gathering is a dangerous drug.

Get your dopamine from action.

Pay attention to the actions, not the words. Words deceive, actions rarely do.

That’s a wrap, folks!

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